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If you really gave it your best try and it becomes clear that the relationship is not going to work, then admit it to yourselves sooner than later. Dragging it out will only make things much worse, creating a setting rife with potential to cause incredible pain and emotional damage. It is far better to face the potential fear communicatioh being alone than to inflict misery on existing and new partners.

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Which is why people who, for example, disagree only on sexual matters and have the relationship skills and maturity to otherwise wish each other the best decide to stay married, not just for the kids, but for a range of practical matters and friendship.

In other words, for some people your "it's really very simple" is not simple at all and requires giving up a lot that might be unecessary. Imcidentally, you've got it backwards with respect to STDs. Turns out that people in open marriages as a group have FEWER STDs than "monogamous" people because so many of them secretly cheat without protection, while people in open marriages plan and are prepared.

Honesty and transparency are the only things that are going to heal, instead of hurt. People who maintain facades, as if they were relationships are deceiving, and dishonest, and are causing pain and harm to everyone that derives any gay ctg from the false relationship.

Wasted time, missing archetypal formations in development in family members, sense of loss, disbelief and self esteem and image problems. You see, cheating and affairs, no matter how intellectualized, are still just lying and deception.

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